if we refuse to be open to our own projections then it can be easy to trapped in a self-referential reality tunnel & be cut off from any real communication with the external. the worst use of the word "projections" would be to undermine another persons reality. it's good to be aware though, are we in interaction with a person or with just our idea of them? but we learn through mistakes and to be unkind to yourself after making some is just not useful to anyone.

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