This book might seem like it gives advice to get male validation but its completely opposite. I wish I read this as a teenager and I want every woman to read this before they enter dating market. This book helped me understand relationships(not only romantic ones) and helped me love myself. If this doesn't convince you then I would like to mention that even if you remove the concept of men from this book you will still find it equally useful. The author writing is so natural and it doesn't feel like you are reading a self help book but it feels as if you are watching a podcast. The only deal is to modify your perception into reading critically and think out of the box or attach the learnings to your own experiences.